Soulsong #489 – How Do I Control My Emotions?
Yelling at people can sabotage my relationships and reputation. But what do I do with the irritation and frustration that can accumulate each day? I don’t want to “stuff it,” suffer in silence, and give myself an ulcer. But I don’t want to “vent” and thus upset and scare people, either.
The most important insight I can grasp about emotions is that they always follow thought. And as I change my habits of thought, I’ll change my emotions.
Emotions are actually my guidance system, notifying me if I’m thinking about what I want (and thus feeling good and magnetizing good things via Law of Attraction) or if I’m focusing on what I don’t want (thus feeling negative emotion and summoning, well, crap). To tussle with my emotions constitutes shooting the messenger and makes no sense.
I can actually use each interruption, each aggravation as a springboard to summon what I DO want from life. A long wait at the grocery store can prompt me to think of how I want to proceed efficiently through the supermarket checkout line next time. A whining, imposing friend can cause me to envision cultivating friendships that are mutually enjoyable. A traffic back-up can remind me to think about traveling easily on freeways. A disappointment at work can trigger a visualization about advancing readily at my job. An obnoxious relative can stimulate me to think about how I want to spend my next vacation.
Each time I encounter something that I don’t like, I can use that instance to spark a brief visualization of what I DO want in the future. I can stop stubbing my toe on unwanted events and instead utilize them as powerful tools to improve my experience.
When I use negative events to trigger positive states of mind, I will no longer endure a build-up of eruptive emotions. And since the entire Universe is responding in kind to that state of mind—or vibration—this is worth the effort indeed.
Copyright 2007, Karen Williams
